Gals, Here Are Some VIP Tips If You're Sh*t Scared To Ask For Your First Promotion
Ladies, it's a pretty special time when you land your first big girl job.
You're earning your paychecks, you're learning things every day and you're gaining experience that will set you up for an illustrious career. You'll learn about knock-backs, how to deal with challenging situations with colleagues and that it is almost always a really bad idea to have that second bottle of wine on a Thursday night, but you'll keep doing it anyway.
After a year or so, you start to feel like you've got the hang of things and you want that next step. You want the 'P' word. A promotion. But it's easier said than done. You feel like you've got a great relationship with your superiors but you don't want to rock the boat or seem ungrateful. You start to make up excuses to not have *that* conversation. The doubt and lack of confidence starts to seep in.
"Maybe next week will be better?" "there probably isn't any budget to give me a raise," "maybe I don't deserve a promotion?" "I cried last week, they will see that as a weakness," "they'll probably give X a promotion before they'll give me one," "maybe I'm not a valuable employee and they're just keeping me here because they can't fire me."
It's a really fkn scary situation to be in. It requires you to dig deep and call upon confidence to give yourself the tools to put it ~out there~. Which is no easy feat. Why is it so bloody hard for women to self-promote? The pressure is all around and it's apparent. In a 2017 report from Bain & Company called 'Advancing Women In Australia: Eliminating Bias In Feedback And Promotions' they found that there is an inherant bias when in comes to promoting men over women.
"Women are told more frequently than men that they need to display “more confidence” and have “more experience” to be promoted," it read. "Only 30% of women believe that qualified men and women have equal opportunity to be recruited or promoted into management and executive positions across Australian workplaces in general, compared with 60% of men."
So with odds like that, it's no wonder women are feeling less and less like they have a voice to self-promote, especially when it comes to your first time asking for a step-up. That kind of negative thinking can really start to grind a gal down.
But the bloody fantastic news is, there are some A+ tips and tricks you can enlist to make sure your first time asking for a promotion, is a really positive experience. We have linked up with Meggie Palmer, the founder and CEO of 'PepTalkHer', an app which is helping women bridge the gender pay gap. We chatted to her to find out exactly how we can get that promotion we've been working towards.
How does the PepTalkHer app help women in the workforce?
THe PeptalkHer app is free to download for Apple and Android - think of it as a fit bit for your career. We’re all about reminding you how awesome you are! The app prompts you to reflect on you success and how you add value at work. You input your data in, and with one press of a button, we'll email you a dossier of your achievements so you can advocate and negotiate for your worth. We use the nudge theory to shift mindset over time by creating a positive feedback loop to help grow confidence & negotiation skills.
Why did you create PepTalkHer?
I built it out of frustration! I had a poor experience in the workplace where my pay and conditions where treated differently to male colleagues. That's what sent me on this journey in the first instance. I am driven by a hate of injustice and feel compelled to create a solution to help others who may, sadly, experience something similar in their life.
What should ladies be telling themselves more often?
One of the things we found while researching PeptalkHer is that most of us love the concept of equal pay and know, in theory, we should negotiate or advocate for ourselves. But, a big thing that holds a lot of us back is the belief that we’re not worth more. We start to believe our inner critic and succumb to imposter syndrome. Being clear on the value you bring to the worksplace is so powerful. Just like if you wanted to get big biceps, you'd need to exercise them repeatedly with weights, so it is with your sense of self worth. If you don't regularly reflect on how you’re contributing and adding value to the business, it can be easy to forget. The PepTalkHer app prompts you to recall and enter your successes like did you hit a revenue target? Did you contribute to company culture? Receive a compliment from your boss? We want to encourage everyone to remember those wins, screen shot the compliments, record the sale you made and add it to the app.
What is your best piece of advice for young women looking for their first promotion?
Leap and the net will appear!
What are your top 3 tips to help negotiate a promotion or a pay rise?
1. KNOW YOUR VALUE
So the concept of "know your value” gets thrown around a lot - but like, what does it even mean? How do you actually quantify that in dollar terms? GREAT QUESTION - so glad you asked!
So, first things first:
- Pay Websites: The likes of Glassdoor, Payscale and Syndio can help. But - be warned, they give a huge range and depending on your seniority, have varying degrees of accuracy. But having said that, it’s a great place to start to get a sense check
- Recruiters: For a more accurate reelection of the market value today - talk to a recruiter who lives and breathes salaries, job descriptions and compensation packages all day! We recommend you speak to a recruiter at least once a year. This will ensure you can suss out where you sit in market
- Dr Google: The old “google it” comes in handy when it comes to salaries too (who knew?!) Let’s say you’re offered a Marketing Director role at a tech company. Google “Marketing Direct “INSERT COMPETITIVE TECH COMPANY NAME HERE” so you can get a sense of what similar companies are paying fo rate role
- Ask Around: Speak to friends and colleagues - This step is CRUCIAL. Get comfortable talking about money. Money makes the world go around - and if you’re going to be one of the ones making it spin, you gotta make these type of chats your friend.
Talk to your friends, superiors, people you admire and ESPECIALLY - talk to men. White men. Because - they make the most. So hit them up.
2. TRACK YOUR SUCCESS
Record everything. Bosses are busy. They’re not going to remember all your wins - but make sure you do. Any negotiation you walk into, you should bring 3 clear achievements. Know these achievements and their supporting data like the back of your hand. Most bosses are results-oriented. Your ability to make an argument for more pay begins with your ability to document and quantify your success. In other words, write it down and add it up!
There’s a few ways you can do this, you can keep a diary, use a google sheet or even better - use the PepTalkHer App. It’s free, simple & collates all your wins in one spot. The app will send you prompts, reminding you to reflect on your successes. It helps you track your projects & their impact on the company. You can press one button and print off your dossier of achievements to take into meetings. For example, did your big presentation lead to $5,000 in additional revenue? Maybe you took on additional responsibilities when a co-worker left. Or did you save the company money when organizing an event? Write is all down in the app. Come pay raise time, you then have the data to hand! The most compelling argument for a pay increase is proven success. The more numbers you can bring into your success the better - your boss can’t argue with facts.
Seriously, you should be talking about your key successes in your sleep. Be sure to track achievements that contributed to big company goals. Show you’re thinking about the company’s bottom line and not just your own job description.
3. WISH, WANT, WALK
So every time you walk into a negotiation, you need to know these 3 numbers: WISH, WANT, WALK.
Here’s what I mean:
WISH - The CRAZY figure, that is scary to say out loud. (Also known as your “F*%K off number!”)
WANT - The number you WANT to be paid. This figure will make you happy to get out of bed and work hard.
WALK - The figure where you think - “you know what - not worth it - I’m outta here.”
Having these numbers to hand will make your feel confident and be clear on your parameters when the salary question comes up.
So, take these tips and make it rain, queens! Happy Women's History Month and International Women's Day!
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